I love my Tally!

Tally makes me happy! I love that every day is the best day ever. I love that she likes to draw and write poetry. She sings with sheer joy for the whole world to hear. I love that whenever there is a camera, it is fun to pose. I love that she likes anything that sparkles.

Tally and I are polar opposites! But not really. We are both messy. We both get lost in the day. We also love to read.

Reading makes my heart happy. I love books. If I find a book laying around the house that is calling my name it is very dangerous. If I happen to pick it up, and it grabs me from the beginning, my day is lost. Laundry, dishes, eating, and sleeping (along with all my other responsibilities) are promptly forgotten and I live in the beauty in the book I am reading for the rest of the day. Tally is the same. I might pull her body away from the book but her mind is still there. There is no need to ask Tally why she was reading her novel in Science class, I already know. I love Tally and sometimes I see too much of me in her and sometimes I could learn a lot from her.

There really is a point that I plan to make. I read an article that reminded me of Tally yesterday and I just can't help thinking about it today.

Tally is the Disney grasshopper. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that we are all ants or grasshoppers. Thankfully most of us live somewhere in the middle. I spend most of my life trying to become an ant. I would love to be prepared for everything, have dinner ready every night a 5:15, and always go to bed each night with everything done. I know some ants and I honestly try to acquire as many of their traits as possible. But I am also more Aesop Fable grasshopper than I would like to admit. But what about the Disney Grasshopper? What about all those wonderful Tally traits? Oh how I love those Tally traits, and no they aren't any less important than the traits of the ant. I would love to learn to be artistic, spontaneous, fun, silly, and creative. It seems like all children were born with some wonderful grasshopper traits. Somewhere along the way I got the idea that the ant traits were the important ones. How grateful for my Tally and my friends that haven't forgotten how to be grasshoppers.

I love the part when the ant asks the grasshopper how does she you get all of her ideas? and the grasshopper answers that they just come to her while she is taking long hot baths. That is Tally! It isn't that she doesn't work, it is just that she works differently that the rest of us.

I guess some days I just need a reminder! And some days I need to remember developing Tally/ grasshopper traits is important too!

Maybe we should write a parenting book...

but I am sure that no one would agree or read it!

I remember when Damon and I started dating. I am pretty sure that we knew within a week we would end up married. Not to sound unromantic, it wasn't fireworks or love at first sight. It was because he was a little odd, so was I, and we made sense to each other. We talked about everything. So for the last 21 years Damon and I have been talking about what kind of parents we would like to be. I would love to say that we have it figured out and that it is a fine art now so any of you who would like to follow our blogs and become perfect parents just like us, here you go!

It just doesn't work that way.

There seem to be a lot of parenting ideas and methods that are constantly circulating. I remember when a good friend of mine took me to the Washington Center and we watched a parenting class by Barbra Coloroso. She gave some wonderful advice, which I will try to remember accurately. She said that whenever we listened to parenting advice or marriage advice we should pull out what we thought fit and throw out the rest. To me that meant don't take anyone's advice as truth, think about it, and pray about it. Take what you need, and know is true, and throw out the rest.

I listen to a lot of parenting theories. I take a piece and leave the rest.

Here is what I believe-

Smile, praise, love often. Send them to kindergarten knowing they are the most brilliant, most beautiful, most talented in the world. Teach them that they are children of God and they have infinite potential. Then they go into the world that will constantly tell them that they are not the most beautiful, the most talented, or the most brilliant, remind them they are a child of God and they have infinite potential.

You can discipline in a loving patient way that will not "break" your children.

Teach respect and responsibility. Yes I think, those go hand in hand. You love those you serve. Working is crucial to the development of our children. It teaches them to serve their families. Respect comes from that love. I teach my daughters they are mothers in training. From the time they are born I teach them to serve their family selflessly, love them unconditionally, without expectation of reward.

I teach my children to be obedient. I know that there is some controversy about that. I think there is so much happiness that comes from living within the boundaries of the law and living the laws of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Besides if you can do those things, I am pretty sure that you will get along with your parents flawlessly.

Everything you do has consequences. Making good choices brings positive consequences. Making poor choices makes negative consequences. Teaching children about consequences of age appropriate choices teaches self discipline and responsibility. It also gives a child self esteem to know they can make age appropriate choices well. I feel sadness that so many people have to learn these things as adults, young adults, teenagers, eight year olds, it is so much easier at 2.

It is okay to tell your children "It is not okay to talk to me that way." "It is not okay to treat me that way" I remember once I had said something comparable to a child in front of an adult, she told me that my two year old had no idea what I was talking about. I was surprised. I wondered how my child would break the habit of speaking or acting unkindly if I let the habit develop. Four children later, I can proudly say, they do get it! Of course I have the most brilliant children in the world (see parenting tip number 1).

If all of these things are taught in a loving, forgiving, kind atmosphere, if no matter what parenting style we choose, it will turn out okay. (Thankfully children have an infinite capacity to forgive and I am learning.)

I reserve the right to edit this list anytime I realize that I am wrong. Especially since this last parenting tip is not fully tested.


By the way, when I have this parenting thing perfect, I will let you know. Then you can follow my blog!

Happy Birthday Tabitha!

Tabitha loves family, she would rather spend time with her sisters that anyone else. What a blessing!

What in the world would we have ever done without Tabitha?

For her birthday, she wanted to cut her hair......more pictures later.

The girls always ask what they were like when they were little. Tabitha has always been such a delight! She was such an easy going baby and 13 months later when Perri was born she gladly became a 2nd mommy and best friend to Perri. She has always kept our house full of laughter and hugs. Happy 9th Birthday Tabitha!

The Bee

So last week, Serenity was out in the yard hunting anything she could catch. Being slow and crippled, pretty much guarantees everything but bugs are safe. She got stung between the toes by a little honey bee.

I went out a little later my girls are playing with this poor little honey bee. I told them to leave it alone, someone was going to get stung, thinking they are all pretty intelligent little girls they would leave it alone...yes? Nope!

A friend asked if I would watch her daughter for a hour. I went outside to check on everyone...there they are with this poor little honey bee. It is now their beloved pet. Poor thing, at that point it had a broken wing and was missing a few legs. I had them make a special place for this poor bee. Complete with leaves and flowers he was laid to rest, again!

For the next 24 hours it was a battle, let the poor little bee die!!!! Please!

Sunday night, my little bee nightmare was over for sure, until.... My home teachers came over, he told me that one of his daughters was trying to catch honey bees in a bottle. Because you know "the Corrigan girls have a pet bee...."

I don't even know what to say.....

The Johnsons have moved! I have to admit I resorted to chocolate to make myself feel a little better. Too bad it never works like it is supposed to.

One last goofy day, at least for a while!

Zoe and Tyler, too little to be big...finally they got big enough to play together and it is time for the Johnsons to move on. I think he was Zoe's first best friend. I hope when they meet up again it will be like they never left!

Katie and Perri are so funny. I think they got to be good friends because they were always the first to get cold. So they were the first to come out of the pool, the first to come in from the snow, the first in the house when it was cold outside. They are rowdy and silly, two peas in a pod!

Jake didn't want to be caught on camera being silly with the girls but don't let this picture fool you. I am pretty sure he liked being silly with Perri and Tabitha. He is the first boy that would play house one minute and swords the next. Throw one boy in the house and he changes everything!

Jessey is so much fun. She is an artist. I think I will miss her art and cartoons floating around our house as much as anyone. She really does bring out the best in the girls. I am looking forward to the day when she is famous, telling everyone I have an original Jessica on my wall.

Our house is forever changed. For the better! WE LOVE THE JOHNSONS!

Friday night

It was rare night with nothing to do. The little girls were having a wonderful time playing and Aerika was having a moment loving all her furry siblings.

The Johnsons are moving to Utah this week and left us cool toys that they weren't taking with them. Sylvia made these Polly Pocket houses out of cardboard and pop cycle sticks. They are amazing. Who am I going to call when I have something creative to do?

Damon was fitting in a few minutes of Guild Wars.

Who knew it was so hard to take pictures of a cat? I couldn't get them to hold still!
This is Thunder.

This is Serenity, actually looking serene. Don't be fooled!

Twenty five random things about me (Have to get started somehow!)

1.I think Doritos definitely smell like dirty socks...and I still love them? I have no excuse for myself

2.Can't stay awake through a movie if life depended on it.

3.Like dogs and children better than adults.

4.Camping is roughing it because I have to use a public restroom.

5.I am afraid of boy children, they pee outside and other strange, unexplainable behavior.

6.Love the neighborhood rooster, hate butterflies. They scare the beegeebers out of me.

7.My dream car has been a 15 passenger van for about the last 10 years. When did I get old?

8.When I started babysitting, I thought children had a funny smell. I guess my house smells like that...eek.

9.My favorite cat belongs to Aerika.

10. The first characteristic I notice is toes. I love toes.

11.I love to read so much that I have to plan before I pick up a book because I become instantly irresponsible.

12.I'm getting wrinkles and it doesn't make me happy but I secretly love my gray hair.

13.I have to think before I make a capital J because I always want to write them backwards.

14.My favorite hobby is the grocery game.

15.There are 11 kids in my house right now and it makes me happy.

16.The biggest fight I have had to solve today was whether you have to close your eyes to play dead.

17.I have had an overdue library book for a very long time. I really should take it back before I really do loose it.

18.If I could live anywhere in the world it would be Kawaii. Did I mention I love the neighborhood rooster?

19.The kindest gift a friend has given me was when she invited me in her house and opened all her closets so I could see everyone's house has a mess somewhere.

20.My favorite time of day is just before dawn when the birds get really happy.

21.My father said he always knew I would live on a farm but never thought it would be in the house.

22.I really want to learn how to play the bassoon someday. It is my favorite instrument.

23.If there is one thing that will make me fall in love with Damon all over again it is when he sings with my children.

24.Some scariest moments when I was a kid were when I tried to sleep in the cabin out in the field and coyotes were singing. Should I stay out there and get eaten or run to the house and get eaten on the way there?

25.I write with my toes and it looks better than when I write with my right hand.